You know the saying, “Don’t hate the player, hate the game”? Well this past weekend, I finally came to the realization that I have been in a funk for the last 8 months because I Hate the Game. And I plan on changing that.
I turn 40 this year and I got so caught up in the “what you should do before turning 40″ culture that I was really upset about where I was in my life. I don’t know what triggered the change this weekend, but now I’m ready to embrace 40 with open arms and no regrets.
Did I set some goals at 30 for when I hit 40? Sure did. Did I achieve them? Sure didn’t. You know why? My life, business and priorities changed drastically over the past decade and it was all for the better.
Moving forward, I’m going to change the game or at least how I play it. I’m not following what others think I should do or how I should behave. I’m going to stop comparing myself to others and then justifying my place in the world. I will not judge or tear down others to make myself look or feel better.
I’m going to try and banish the word should from my vocabulary. Boy, Little J will be happy about that.
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“I’m going to stop comparing myself to others and then justifying my place in the world.” Why would you ever do that? Seriously, Beth. So many (including myself) look up to you. I think you are fantastic… we should all be so lucky. (Dang. I used “should.” Sorry!)
I think I am part of that culture problem. I am obviously so caught up in all of that nonsense. Have been for months. Good for you…
Thanks for that Jen. It means a lot coming from you. We all have insecurities, and I really allowed mine to get me down.
Yeah, what Jen said. Don’t “should” all over yourself ;-) The only limits in life are self-imposed. (BTW – totally connected w/ the title of the article. High-five.).